Narcissism: There are many types and blends of narcissism, from the classic, malignant narcissist to the less obvious, the covert (or closet) narcissist. They are disorders which are destructive to all they have relationships with, whether personal or in the workplace. The malignant type is usually arrogant, egocentric, flamboyant, controlling and an exhibitionist who strives to be superior and likes to be the centre of attention. The covert narcissist has many blends, usually not an exhibitionist or flamboyant but exerts control and needs to feel superior to cover up their damaged persona from either a traumatic childhood or a dysfunctional upbringing. Their aim is to break the other down with criticism, control, degrading comments and gaslighting, all of which is passive-aggressive behaviour. The covert learns to display normal behaviour but it is only a mask to cover their damaged self.
Bullying: Most people think that bullying is primarily between children in the playground. Not so. Children may develop bullying behaviour at school and refine their techniques as they get older, becoming more subtle. If allowed to go unchecked, children bullies become adult bullies. For adults, their playground is in the workplace and in organisations.
This site will help give you the knowledge to understand why and how narcissists and bullies became the destructive person they are and how they pick their victims. When you understand why they picked you and how they manipulate and control you, then you can start to stand up against them.
Stress caused by narcissists and bullies rates amongst the top three causes of stress together with the loss of a loved one, loss of a job, and divorce. The best way to cope with bullies is to fight back, but for narcissists, the only remedy, unfortunately, is to distance yourself from them as a narcissist will never change.
Knowledge will be your power - to regain your dignity, self respect, honour and more....
In the case of bullies, one good rule: It should be the bully who leaves, not the victim. If the victim leaves, it only makes the bully feel success and reinforce the bullying behaviour and move on to the next victim - a carefully selected, nice person, usually gentle in nature, flexible, adaptable, accomodating - all the good characteristics in a person that a bully despises.
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